By Sunny Sanchez
Family Refuge Center’s Abuse in Later Life advocate
The term “dating violence” means violence committed by a person with whom you are seeing romantically, who harms you physically, sexually, and/or emotionally.
Dating violence can happen to victims of all ages, including older adults. Dating violence in older adults is like that of other victims of domestic violence but for older individuals, abuse can be made worse by poor health and other age-related needs. Many seniors in long-term relationships are suffering in silence without seeking help for domestic abuse. There are many reasons older adults are less likely to seek help.
For example, domestic violence services were not readily available 30 years ago, which made it difficult to reach this population due to the stigma attached to abuse. Dating violence wasn’t as acceptable to talk about as it is now. Some older adults don’t believe they are being abused because they are not being physically harmed. The victims are also less likely to report if their abuser is their caretaker due to the fear of who will take care of them. Afterwards, it is important to recognize the possible signs of abuse such as general changes in behavior, financial issues, bruises and isolation. Isolation being a key tactic used by abusers to keep victims from getting help.
We have witnessed a significant increase in the number of seniors seeking services. To accommodate the growth, our facilities have been updated to be ADA compliant, and we have increased the number of shelter beds for this population. Seniors represent the largest population in the state of West Virginia. Currently, 25 percent of our clients are seniors.
If you or somebody you know is currently experiencing elder abuse, please contact Family Refuge Center’s Abuse in Later Life advocate, Sunny Sanchez at 304-645-6324. There is also a 24/7free and confidential hotline number1-800-799-SAFE(7233).
